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Accessible, easy to read. Dr. Sue Johnson founded EFT (the way I work with couples), and here she offers exercises to help reestablish connection. We come to our adult relationships with attachment wounds and emotional longings. She guides couples on how to be more open, attuned, and responsive through exercises and poignant examples.

Science-y. A book for the more engineering type of brain. Here Dr. Johnson writes about stages of relationships, the intelligence of emotions, the science behind emotional connection, attachment, and secure vs insecure attachment (among so much more!)

Iconic book. Tatkin (founder of PACT) looks at relationship conflict and disconnection through the lens of attachment and neuroscience - sciencey way to view emotional regulation.

A wonderful read, helpful tools to better understand conflict - Here they offer hands on exercises and recommendations, like questions and how-to's to help you sift through conflict in real-time. There's a lot here to put into practice -when both partners are ready to commit to trying them. Though I still recommend couples therapy to help understand what is inevitably going to come up. 

A must read by psychotherapist Jessica Fern who combines attachment theory w consensual nonmonogamy - as she writes about polyamorous relationships and how to enter into them with open eyes, consciously, with self acceptance, with understanding about consent, and with a healthy attachment perspective vs the outdated viewpoint that poly equates to missed or insecure attachments.

Attachment theory and non-monogamy, through the lens of neurobiology whilst incorporating communication skills to help make difficult conversations more accessible for those in open or poly relationships, or wanting to be. 

Easy, accessible and fun to read with partner or by yourself. Audiobook is a plus. Dr. Nagoski's profound work offers research that finally demystifies sex (regardless of gender or orientation), by looking at our response systems, brains, autonomic nervous systems, desires, what it means to "desire" and invisible cultural biases. Though aimed at female bodies it is for all genders, partners & all orientations. 

"Explores the healing, spiritual power of slow sex, offering a step-by-step guide for committed couples looking to transform sex into a meditative, loving union of complementary energies." This is a poetic read and one that might be enjoyed being-read-to, or, for the delight of your own sexuality, to yourself as it creates and restores the concept of pleasure. 

Written by clinical psychologist, is accessible and empowering. Also check out Dr Becky's GOOD INSIDE podcast. This book gives parents tools and practical strategies to help you raise your children, investigating behaviors & uncovering parents' triggers. Comes from the view point that there is no perfect-parent but rather a good enough parent, a concept coined by pediatrician and psychoanalyst Dr. Donald Winnicott

Helps explain the teenage brain’s capacity for change and what teenagers are facing, from a neuroscience perspective and some cultural perspective. Helps offer strategies for instilling resilience, self-control, and more. 

Research based, dense but accessible, this book is written for women mainly in that it dives into the pathologizing of women's sensory processing differences often looked at as “abnormal”. 

A cornerstone book: "HSPs" as she coined, has helped many understand why they feel "too sensitive" and why others don't understand them, in this otherwise normative world. Easy to read. Gives the feeling of being related to, for the differences that make you you. And for your family or partners, helps to clarify for them a little more about you...

Easily relatable and accessible - Brené writes “This book is an invitation to join a wholehearted revolution. A small, quiet, grassroots movement that starts with each of us saying, ‘My story matters because I matter.’  She writes about the sabotaging expectations that get in the way of being who we really are meant to be.

"...wisdom from one hundred writers, artists, and thinkers in the form of essays and writing prompts...." this book gives tools and prompts to engage w the self through journalizing, or being inspired, during the challenges of life shared by most.

I highly recommend listening to Pema, vs reading. This particular book of hers, profoundly targets healing by being a guide through rough times as she describes how to cultivate acceptance of your irritability, insecurities, and other human traits, Eastern lens through meditation, sitting with critical mind, in an accessible way for all, whether Buddhist or not. 

Somewhat dense but also accessible, this book will help you understand the response the body has to trauma, why and how. “Essential reading for anyone interested in understanding and treating traumatic stress and the scope of its impact on society.” - Alexander McFarlane, Director of the Centre for Traumatic Stress Studies

This book is beautifully written and for anyone wanting to understand addiction. It reframes addiction as a response to trauma or suffering — not a “choice” or a moral failure. For readers struggling with substance abuse, for those wanting to better understand their loved one, and for people to get a grasp on the epidemic of trauma and addiction.

This small book is a collection of stories written by hospice nurses, who witnessed the passing-on of many patients. I recommend this to anyone who is a caregiver or preparing to let go of a loved one. Or for anyone ready to read first hand accounts of the profound and moving process of dying; a vital transition, helpful for the ones leaving us, and those saying goodbye.

Easy to read and insightful. Compassionate and research based, exploring what toxic masculinity is and how it affects men today. This is for both men who want to feel understood, and to help give him more language around feelings, as well as for women to help understand the men she cares about.

Charming, easy to read and with depth,, a story about a woman who is trying to decide how to keep going: faced with the possibility of changing her life forever, or choosing a new one, she finds herself in a place in time, traveling through the Midnight Library, where she has to confront "what is truly fulfilling in life."